This is the life youre missing (here and now)

This is the life youre missing (zu siche and now)This is the life youre missing (here and now)Paul McCartney had a dream that would change his life and career forever.In retrospective, it seems it happened at the right moment and time. However, it was Paul who created the proper condition he paid attention.No one is immune to external pressure. In the early 70s, the English rock band The Beatles was going through a tumultuous moment. Fatigue and stress caused by unhealthy rivalry were tearing the band apart.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moraThat tense period was taking a toll on McCartney. Until his mother paid him a visit while he was sleeping.It will be all right, just let it be. she toldhim.Pauls mother had died of cancer when he was furteen her night visit inspired him to write the songLet it Be.So I woke up and was, What was that? She said, Let it be. Thats kind of good. So I wrote the song Let it be, but it was her positivity. I felt like everything was going to be great. Paul McCartney shared the storyleaving James Corden in tears.Those words of wisdom inspired McCartney to compose one of themost successful songsby The Beatles. Most importantly, they helped him reconnect with the power of living in the here and now.The life you aremissingPast and future are in the mind only I amnow.- Sri Nisargadatta MaharajYour life happens in the present the rest is an illusion.When you speculate aboutwhat might beandwhat might have been, you are ignoring what is happeningnow. You worry. And stop paying attention.Time travel is a useless practice you cant not modify the past, you cant predict the future either. No matter how much effort you put into it, the only space and moment you can affect are thehere and now.Anticipationis caused by tunnel vision you are looking far ahead instead of noticing whats going on around you. Anxiety about the outcome keeps your mind busy you are not leaving room to enjoy the present.Rumination,chewing sad experiences or conversations, again and again, gets you stuck in the sand. Watching the same movie over and over wont change how it ends.We are busy keeping our lives busy we cant appreciate the present because we are always doing something else.As Buddhist scholar B. Alan Wallace says Were living in a world that contributes in a major way to mental fragmentation, disintegration, distraction, decoherence.Life is dynamic, but it shouldnt be a moving target. When your mind is in constant transition from one distribution policy to another, from one moment to another its hard to find focus.Why do you avoid focusing on the here?The challenge of beingnowhereMost of the places we visit dont exist, according to Marc Aug.TheFrench Anthropologist coined the termNon-placesto refer to spaces where human beings remain anonymous they do not hold enough significance to be regarded as places.Airports, highways, shopping malls , public waiting rooms, and lobbies are perfect examples of non-places. Thousands of individual stories converge for a moment in a physical space however, people are unaware of each other.Augs An Introduction to Supermodernity was initially published in 2009, but now it makes mora sense than ever. The author analyzes the anthropology of the near everyday life. He promotes an anthropological shift from analyzing remote societies to understanding whats happening closer to home an invitation to focus on the here and now.Traditionally, a culture was presumed to be inextricably located within a specific place and time. The shifts of modern life, exponentially accelerated by the Internet, have eroded most boundaries the planet is shrinking.Culture happens everywhere and nowhereWe spend more and more time transitioning from one space to another the notion ofhereishard to grasp. Non-spacesfill a place between places. They preserve our anonymity and loneliness as we move around.Public spaces have a clear goal. People gather at a church, synagogue or mosque to pray. We go to a park to play sports, spend time with our kids or just have a walk. Conversely, non-places are a means to an end. Going to the airport is not a desired destination you go there because you have to travel.The paradox of non-places is, though we have a lot of free time, we get more distracted rather than focusing on the here and now. The places that obsessively scrutinize your identity effectively strip yourinner-selfaway.American sociologist Benjamin Bratton said Airports are a critical cohabitation of security and entertainment. It is where police deep-scan your person while blending you a delicious smoothie, without irony or affect.Being in permanent transition doesnt mean that your mind has to be in that same state too. Non-places provide an excellent opportunity to reconnect with your life in the present.Regulate your transitioning speedDo you have a hard time focusing on the now?An event become s history as soon as we live it. Waiting makes us anxious. We want to escape feeling bored thats why our mind anticipates events.Boredom has nothing to do with the environment. Its not external boredom ishow you engage with the world.The desire to evade an unwanted situation or moment accelerates our inner speed. Our mind goes faster and faster when we cant adapt to transitional places or moments. People feel the need to look in a hurry while they are waiting in a non-place, even though it serves them no purpose.Rushing into the airport line wont get you a better a seat they are pre-assigned already. Standing up as soon as the plane lands, wont do you any favor either. You wont be able to get off the aircraft until the people in the previous lines do so.Leo Tolstoy said Remember then there is only one time that is important Now It is the most important time because it is the only time when we have any power.What drives your need to be in a hurry?Seth Godindefines being in a hurry as a state of mind. He explains that, at the airport, people in a hurry are stressed, distracted and no more likely to make their flight. At work, people in a hurry avoid getting sidetracked and more likely to leap.The author recommends two strategiesRedefine in a hurry to be a version of your best self. So that hurry isnt a crutch, or an excuse, but an asset.Turn on hurry whenever you need it, and turn it off when you dont.Regulating your transition speed can help you reconnect with the here and now. When you realize that, most of the times, theres no need to be running, its easier to start living in the present.Embrace a let it beattitudeMindfulness is the art of living in the moment. Its a state of active, open, intentional attention on the present as is you are letting life be.As Henry David Thoreau said In any weather, at any hour of the day or night, I have been anxious to improve the nick of time, and notch it on my stick too to stand on the meeting of two eternities, the past and future, which is precisely the present moment to toe that line.1. Everything will be allrightWhen you worry, you stop paying attention to whats happening around you. You dont need to wait for Paul McCartneys mother to visit you in your dreams. Everything will be all right because it always does. With perspective, all our lifes events make sense all moments end falling in the right place.When you stop worrying, you make room to appreciate what is happening now.Worry keeps you busy by inaction. John Lennon said Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.McCartney stopped fighting reality and let go of worrying. Let it be was the last single by The Beatles. After they released an album under the same name, the band split. Both McCartney and Lennon became very successful in theirsolocareers.Dont fight life, let it be. Youll never know whats on the other side of your comfort zone until you give it a try.2. Minimize distractionsWhen we are waiting, we tend to lo ok for distractions to avoid feeling bored. The paradox is that, the more you stimulate your mind, the more bored youll get.Stop fighting boredom. Start by mimizing distractions.If you are at a non-place, disconnect your WiFi. Focus your time on doing one activity that will help you relax. Listen to music, practice some deep breathing exercises, follow a guided meditation, or just read a book.Train your mind to be okay with doing one single thing at-a-time.This part is essential. Most people fail at removing distractions because they shift from multitasking to no-tasking thus, creating an empty space that drives more anxiety.3. Turn your transitional time into apauseTake control of your speed by purposefully deciding when to be in a hurry or not. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Resilience and continuity are more important than speed.Regain the value of pausing. Reconnect with your feelings and emotions. If something is bothering you,whyis it? Acknowledge your positive emotions too . Celebrate your recent achievements, no matter how small. Reflect on your behaviors, what can you improve?Turn your transitional time in a moment for reflection or generation.If you are facing problems at work, pausing provides room to understand why and to create potential solutions.4. Embrace your owncompanySolitude drives most of our anxiety. We are not used to be on our own. Transitional places isolate us more they are full of people, but we are all anonymous.Some people socialize as a distraction. You can always meet new people in unpredictable places. However, many opt to chit chat as a way to avoid their inner voice. Considering how invasive and distractive our society has become, having time for yourself is a luxury. Learn to protect that right.Turn yourself in someone you want to spend time with.See yourinner-selffrom a distance. TheObserving-Selfis like the sky. Your thoughts and emotions are like the weather. No matter how strong the storms, they cant damage the sky.Chec k out this exerciseto train your observing self.5. Celebrate every moment oflifeYour expectations are stealing yournow-ness. This moment, as is happening now, will never again return. Every experience is unique. When you stop appreciating whats happening, you are missing a moment that you wont be able to recover.Living in the here and now is a celebration of whats happening, not of what you wish it happens.As Thoreau said, the present is the meeting of two eternities, the past and future.Life is continually evolving. We spend most of our time transitioning rather than wasting those moments, embrace their uniqueness.Instead of resisting the discomfort turn transitional places and moments into an opportunity to value your present time.Life happens in thehere and now.Let it be.This article first appeared on Medium.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from B enjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people